As I sat down thinking about life and the ups and downs it brings along the journey of life, I just sigh and resolve within me that none of my mistakes will be repeated by my children.
You see in this life mistakes are repeated because most times parents refuse to share their mistakes with their kids. Some may have their reasons for not sharing their past mistakes while others do not see any reason to share their mistakes and how it hurts them. While others may want their children to make mistakes inorder to learn their lesson. But somebody somewhere once said that learning from others mistakes is better than learning from yours. Therefore, I would rather learn from others mistakes than to be used as an experiment by others.
You can make some mistakes in life and face a temporary consequence. But there are some mistakes that you have to face the consequences for a life time. And one of the gravest mistakes anyone could make in life is the mistake of marrying the wrong person. What does it mean to marry the wrong person, it means marrying somebody whose life’s focus does not align with yours. I mean marrying someone whose vision contradicts yours. There is nothing that gives headache than marrying someone whose you can’t even reason together with.
I have mingled with and chatted with married couples and then some are fulfilled while some are not. But I have found out one thing that those ones who are mostly not fulfilled are the ones who were cajoled into marrying someone they were truly not having connection with. They were those who married by the conviction of others and not theirs. They were those who decided to abandon the guiding rules they set for their lives by listening to others against their own rules.
My question to you is are you living a fulfilled life? Do you own your mistakes?
Be warned please and never allow yourself to be pushed against yourself.
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Ruth Olayemi Olaleru 